Anyone can attend and you can expect a warm welcome from all of our staff no matter what your beliefs. The Third Option emphasizes practical relationship skills that are beneficial to anyone regardless of their faith.
The Third Option offers a loving and fun community where solid marriages can get a "tune up” The program can help your strong marriage grow stronger and deeper.
The Third Option has helped many couples work through serious betrayals, hurts and struggles. You will hear couples share about how they overcame affairs, divorce, abortion, alcoholism and other serious issues. You will learn about taking responsibility for yourself, about childhood issues, about the process of forgiveness and rebuilding trust.
Yes, but the more serious and protracted the problems in your marriage, the harder you will have to work – individually and as a couple – to overcome those issues. You will hear stories of couples who were separated for a time and learned how to rebuild their marriage.
Even divorced couples have found their way back together through The Third Option. Consider it a real possibility to find each other again on the other side of divorce.
Third Option is not a counseling service. It is an educational group where we learn and encourage and support each other. The Third Option is led by skilled facilitators and by couples who have overcome serious issues in their own marriages and are giving back to others.
We ask for a $20 per week donation ($10 per individual) and we utilize the honor system. There is a donation basket at the registration table or you can make your donation online. If this amount causes a financial hardship, simply speak to us and we will make arrangements so that you can continue to attend The Third Option for as long as you need to.
We have childcare for infants to 12 year olds provided by the hosting church. Childcare is free for the Third Option participants. If your child has special needs, we ask that you contact us at least one week in advance to assess and plan for that need.
Third Option is designed to be helpful in one-week increments. Each week is a stand-alone discussion and teaching. Attending regularly is very helpful, but not required. Many times couples may miss a week and then make up that topic during the next session. Many couples find it takes two or even three cycles to build their marriage to the level they seek.
We provide name tags and people only put their first name on the tag. We ask for your email in order to send homework via the internet, but you are always free to decline.
Couples come on different nights for many reasons: conflicting schedules, kids’ activities or because of hurt and pain in the marriage. Attending separately is still helpful. Ultimately, after couples see there is hope for healing and learn new ways to handle their issues, they try to attend together to work on their marriage in a unified way.
We firmly believe the Third Option will help your marriage. However, it is possible things can initially deteriorate when couples begin to be transparent and honest with themselves and each other in a new way. Giving each other permission to fail and try again while learning new skills is essential to ultimate success. With persistent application of the tools and skills, most couples see transformation in themselves and their marriages.
We consider all information shared by everyone at the Third Option confidential. You can come and listen without the pressure to share. There is no requirement to speak in discussion groups...you can listen to the facilitators and other couples while you reflect on your own situation.
Third Option is designed to allow new couples to start ANY WEEK during the sessions. Just check the schedule and show up!